How You Can Become More Attractive To Women

April 23, 2019

Have you ever wondered how to become more attractive? What triggers that primitive lust in women’s eyes when a charismatic man walks in the room?

In this article, you will learn what exactly makes a man attractive to women. First, we’ll go through the foundations and debunk some myths regarding female attraction. Then you’ll discover unknown factors that might influence your attractiveness.

What really makes man attractive?

woman hugging attractive man — What makes man attractive?

If you have asked the question “how I can become more attractive to women?”. You probably are already familiar with those tabloid clickbait articles, fashion trends, and logical opinions that every website keeps spinning around. Well, most of them do not represent what the women really want.

So in this article, we will turn things around and focus on reliable research-based information, not in random opinions.

Let’s get to it… Next, you will learn all the things that trigger women’s urges and moist their panties when it comes to men and attraction.

Things that make a man more attractive

Here is a list of basic thing that could make men appear more attractive. You will see these “tricks” often in tabloid magazines but do they really work?

Does wearing red make you more attractive?

Wearing red is probably one the most touted “strategy” on “how you can become more attractive” articles.

The wildest theory is that women desire red color because it demonstrates ripeness in fruits and berries. The theory goes like this, in ancient history, women gathered fruit and berries in the woods, and when they saw ripe red fruits their dopamine levels rose as they found eatable food. Now, they imagine that when a woman sees a man in red clothes, their dopamine levels rise and they feel more attraction…

But does wearing red really work?
No, it does not work at all. This is just bullshit that has spread like wildfire through attention seeking publications.

Yes, wearing red might increase the change that women might notice you. However, it won’t increase your attractiveness.

If you are unattractive man, wearing red might help women to notice you, but in their eyes you are still just unattractive male wearing red.

red shirt man with asian woman — Does wearing red clothes make you more attractive?

Research shows no benefits from wearing red
Actually, wearing red is a perfect example of how tabloids are feeding bullshit fairytales.

While there are some studies that have shown it works on men looking women on red clothes and red background color. There are even study that claimed women find men wearing red more attractive and desirable, but it turned out to be just a bias.

“Because of the presence of publication bias, the findings in Elliot et al. (2010) should be considered nonscientific or anecdotal. ” – Publication bias in “Red, rank, and romance in women viewing men,”

Currently, there is no evidence that wearing red could make a man more attractive. However, we do have well-conducted studies that show no benefits from wearing red.

“The results from each of the three studies (totaling N = 830 men) fail to support the red effect.” – Revisiting the Red Effect on Attractiveness and Sexual Receptivity

Wearing red might help you to get noticed, but don’t expect it make you look more attractive.

Does having a pet make man more attractive?

“I read from the newspaper that getting a dog helps me to become more attractive to women…?”

Dogs are cute and they might make you look caring, approachable and less creep. However, thinking that getting a dog would make you more attractive is a kinda stupid idea. While the dog might help an unattractive male get more swipes in tinder, but in the end, it won’t solve anything. An unattractive guy with a dog is still an unattractive guy. It’s funny how clickbait media spin these random internet dating studies to make eye-catching headlines.

No, you should not get a dog just to become more attractive to women.

Face shape and does mewing make you attractive?

Mewing is a technique that was invented by the British orthodontist named Mike Mew. In this technique, you press your tongue up to the roof of your mouth. Supposedly this should increase your jawline and make you look more attractive.

Here is a great video about the mewing technique:

Mewing might be one of those strategies that you want to add to your routines. However, you should not expect much results from mewing alone. Going to the gym and lowering body fat also shapes your face for more attractive.

Posture and attraction

man-posing-in-body-language-study — Men with open body language were more likely getting “yes” in dating study.¹

Body language and posture plays a huge role in attraction. If you have weak submissive posture none of these attraction tricks won’t work for you. Working on and fixing your posture is one the easiest way to appear more attractive.

Studies about body language and attraction

In this 2016 study, men who show open and expansive dominant body language were more likely to get a positive answer from a speed dating partner.

“Our research suggests that a nonverbal dominance display increases a person’s chances of being selected as a potential mate.”²

Another study shows that men who looked more pride were ranked as the most attractive:

“In contrast, pride showed the reverse pattern; it was the most attractive male expression, and one of the least attractive in women.”³

Does beard make men attractive?

The right question is “Do women find a bearded man more attractive than clean-shaven man?”

If you look at studies about the subject you notice very quickly that women indeed see bearded males more attractive and might even prefer bearded males for short-term relationships.

Generally, bearded males are seen as sexually mature, wiser and more higher status. Having a beard might make your jaw look bigger which has been shown to have positive benefits for self-confidence.

If you want to check out the studies and learn more about beard and attraction check out: Beard And Attraction – Do Women Prefer Man With Beard?

NoFap and female attraction?

What does NoFap mean?
NoFap basically means that you stop wanking and watching porn. But does NoFap actually turn you more attractive to a woman? If you read people’s experiences with NoFap. You will often see stuff like how women suddenly started to stare at them, and they feel more attractive.

Why do females become more attracted to you when starting NoFap?
Well, this is easier to explain when you know what consuming porn really does to your body. A new study published in Frontiers of Psychology⁴ stated that pornography consumption can damage your self-esteem and sex drive, resulting in multiple insecurities. In the worst cases, porn consumption can cause extremely severe depression, anxiety, and stress.

Porn may also mess with you in a variety of different ways. Pornography consumption can have an impact on your self-worth and perception of others. In bad porn addiction cases, it could get worse. Long-term porn addiction can even damage the brain’s dopamine reward system in a similar way that drug addiction can damage your brain.⁵

Women can sense men’s self-esteem, stress levels, and other messed-up stuff going on in their thoughts. The so-called “porn watcher’s aura” is a real thing. Females are naturally better at seeing these things than men.

When you start NoFap and stop watching porn, your brain starts to heal back to normal. Your stress, self-image, and dopamine levels will improve, and you will feel amazing. Women will notice this, and it might feel that you are becoming more attractive to women. This will lead to a positive feedback loop. You start lifting weights and eating better, which leads to higher testosterone levels and muscle gains.

For regular guys who don’t watch a lot of porn, I don’t think that NoFap increases your attractiveness to women. However, in men that have a porn addiction, it may work like a miracle.

Semen retention and female attraction

Semen retention is a state where you withhold from orgasm (avoiding ejaculation). Semen retention is not a new concept, and men may have been doing it for thousands of years. For example, in Taoism, semen retention is one of the most significant concepts. Also, some individuals believe that ejaculation causes a loss of energy in the form of hormones, vitamins, or minerals.

Today, semen retention has become a typical practice in self-help and NoFap communities. Semen retention has multiple alleged mental and physical benefits. But can it also make women more attracted to you?

Will semen retention increase female attraction?
Semen retention has multiple claimed benefits like increased self-confidence, vitality, muscle growth, and even improved sperm quality.

When male refrains from ejaculation, their testosterone levels seem to increase. However, ejaculation itself does not seems to affect testosterone levels.⁶

There seems also to be a general belief that, semen retention might increase fertility. Studies have shown that the best results are obtained after 1-3 days of retention, and there seems to be a decline after 10 days.⁷

Could the increased fertility outcomes also increase female attraction to men who are practicing semen retention? Or could it be some other benefit that semen retention gives?

Well, I guess this is something that most men just need to test by themselves and see the results. If you are used to ejaculating often, you will definitely see benefits like increased sex drive, physical energy, and motivation.

There are a lot of men that praise it’s for mental, physical, and sexual health. It’s an easy, safe and free practice that can provide multiple benefits. There are no known side-effect even if you go a long time without ejaculating.

Preselection – Does having a girlfriend make you more attractive?

Could a girlfriend or a female companion help you look more attractive?

Pre-selection is the idea that women feel more attracted to men, they think are wanted by other women.

With this theory, your attractiveness should increase, if a girl thinks other girls are also wanting you.

Have you ever noticed, that when you are somewhere with a female friend or girlfriend, those other females also flirt with you more? Or when you go to a bar with females, the other girls are more likely to stare at you.

What actually triggers this effect?
There might be various reasons why this happens. For example, when you are already with women, you are less likely to be a creeper in the eyes of others. Also, the “sheep theory” will work here. Most people act very similar way to sheep and just follow what others like, do, watch, and read.

So, when a woman sees a man with another sexy woman. The ancient programming will run through her head and say: “That man must have specific characteristics that make her desire him.”

Whether is a large penis, or a gigantic bank account, high status, does not matter at this point.

In evolutionary theory, this is referred to as mate choice copying. That is, women are just saving time and energy by selecting guys who have previously been chosen by other females. Makes sense right?

“If it is good enough for others it will be good enough for me too.”

When is the girlfriend effect most potent?
This effect is most potent when women are trying to get pregnant. This impact appears to be strongest shortly before women ovulate.

Women who are just looking for one-night sex, or casual sex. The pre-selection effect might not matter as much for those looking for a longer-term partner.

Is there any preselection studies?
This “girlfriend effect” is also been proven in a couple of studies, that have examined it.

In this study, they found that single women are more interested in dating attached male targets rather than single males.⁸

This meta-analysis noted that when a male was shown with a female partner, women were more likely to rate those males as more attractive.⁹

In this study, participants were asked to rate the attractiveness of men based on pictures. The trick was it was the same picture (man and female). The only difference was the stated relationship condition (romantic partner, nonromantic partner, or ex-partner).

Results come down as followed: When it was stated that a man was with a “romantic partner”, women rated the man more attractive. And when a sister or cousin was stated in the picture, the same man was less attractive in the eyes of female participants.

“A large and growing body of research has found evidence suggesting that men can increase their desirability to women simply by being observed holding the attention of an attractive member of the opposite sex.” – Source (study)¹⁰

In conclusion, yes, it appears that just hanging out with other women can make you appear more attractive to other women also.

Muscularity and attraction

woman falling for attractive man — Do women fall for muscular man?

Is muscular man more attractive? Should all men try to grow their muscles to become more attractive?

If you ask this question from a random woman, the answer is always something like “yes of course, but not too much”.

What exactly makes women attracted to muscular men?

Evolutionary researchers think that one reason that women fall for muscular men is their perceived fighting and protecting abilities.

It makes sense that strength and size could help men fight better against threats, but does it matter present day? It might…

Here’s a recent popular case story example on relationships Reddit about how a woman left his man when she noticed that he isn’t up to fight against threats. Her attraction died the moment she saw that this man might lack in fighting and protecting abilities. Even though the man might’ve handled that situation smartly and did the right thing. But still for women and their hindbrain that behavior isn’t always cutting it.

Interestingly, even small signs about fighting abilities like facial scars have improved women’s ratings of male attractiveness (study). Scars could tell that a man is a fighter and probably better protector for a woman.

However, you should not start scarring your face to become more attractive to women, as this seems to work only for short-term relationships.

Another reason might be that muscular men have a healthy and strong immune system whereby they are better to reproduce with. Also, muscular men usually have higher testosterone levels which mean better heart health, stronger bones, higher libido, and sex drive and so on.

Today we don’t need to guess why women want muscular men as there a lot of actual research and studies done on the subject.

So let’s take a look research from studies that investigated “why women want muscular males”…

Muscularity and attraction studies

Strongest is most attractive

First, we take a look in this recent well-conducted study where scientists showed photos of men’s bodies (faces were censored) to students who were asked to score their physical strength or attractiveness by numbers 1 to 7.

What were the results?
The results were quite remarkable; men who were rated as “stronger” were also rated as most attractive. Surprisingly, not a single one of 160 females in this study showed a statistically significant desire for weaker men.

more strength more attractive — More strength = More attractive (source study)

So here we learned that man can look more attractive by just appearing and looking a little bit stronger. In theory, you could use this information to get more “matches” on dating apps.

“Three sets of photographs of men’s bodies were shown to raters who estimated either their physical strength or their attractiveness. Estimates of physical strength determined over 70% of men’s bodily attractiveness. Additional analyses showed that tallness and leanness were also favoured, and, along with estimates of physical strength, accounted for 80% of men’s bodily attractiveness. Contrary to popular theories of men’s physical attractiveness, there was no evidence of a nonlinear effect; the strongest men were the most attractive in all samples.” – Cues of upper body strength account for most of the variance in men’s bodily attractiveness

Women rated muscular men as most sexually desirable

The study made in 2007 investigated whether women find muscular men as more sexually desirable.

Researchers showed women series of computer-generated images of men. Images were computer generated to look brawny, built, toned, slender, typical, and chubby.

Then women were asked questions about sexual desirability of men in the pictures. Women rated every questions 9-point Likert scale (1 = not at all 9 = extremely)

For example, questions included: How likely is it that this man: “would be sexually exciting,” “would be a good sexual partner,” and “How physically attractive is this man?”

Guess what pictures were rated as most sexually desirable?
Yes, same results again. Muscular build, toned and brawny men were rated as most attractive. Chubby and typical men were the least attractive.

As predicted, women rate muscular men as sexier, more physically dominant and volatile, and less committed to their mates than nonmuscular men. Consistent with the inverted-U hypothesis of masculine traits, men with moderate muscularity are rated most attractive. Consistent with past research on fitness cues, across two measures, women indicate that their most recent short-term sex partners were more muscular than their other sex partners – Why Is Muscularity Sexy? Tests of the Fitness Indicator Hypothesis

Physically stronger man is more likely to find partner

This new Norwegian study that was published in 2018 examined could grip strength affect men changes to being married in the Norwegian city of Tromsø.

Did grip strength affect men’s chances to find a partner?
Data from the study showed that weaker men (by grip strength) are more likely to remain single. Physically stronger men (just by grip strength) were more likely to find a partner and get married. The scientist concluded that women seem to be favoring men who signal strength when choosing their partner.

grip strength study — More grip strength = more likely to find partner (source)

“We find that for men, particularly among younger cohorts, the physically stronger are more likely to be married, but no relation is found for women. This is consistent with a hypothesis that women increasingly have selected male marital partners based on preferred individual traits, whereas men do not emphasize strength when selecting women.” – Source

Interesting results, who would have guessed that squeezing grip strength hand strengthener could affect your chances of getting married.

Women’s eyes are fixated to look for signs of upper body strength

2017 study analyzed women’s eye movement, as they were shown images of men with different waist-to-chest ratios. Again women found men with waist to chest ratio of 0.7 (small waist large chest) as most attractive. Eye movement analysis also showed that upper body strength is important in women’s visual attraction processing. Is this the reason some men only train their chest and arms in the gym?

A consistent finding throughout the eye movement analyses was that women directed most of their visual attention toward the upper part of the man’s body. Unequivocally, women exhibited an attentional bias toward the upper part of the man’s body, which could be due to the importance that upper body strength offers in mate selection.

Overall, the present findings on physical attraction support the notion that men who display physical characteristics of upper body strength are favored in mate selection
An Eye Tracking Examination of Men’s Attractiveness by Conceptive Risk Women

More muscle more sex partners?

This study published on Evolution and Human Behavior Journal examined the benefits of fat-free muscle mass in men and how it affects the number of their sex partners. Once again a man with more fat-free muscle mass is favored by women.

“Using data on males aged 18–59 years from the third National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey and including other relevant variables, fat-free mass (FFM) and/or limb muscle volume (LMV) are significant predictors of the numbers of total and past-year self-reported sex partners, as well as age at first intercourse.” – Source

Study: yet another win for muscular men

This comparative study shows that muscular men without body hairs are the most attractive in women’s eyes.

“In Study 1, women in both countries rated mesomorphic (muscular) and average male somatotypes as most attractive, followed by ectomorphic (slim) and endomorphic (heavily built) figures.” – Source

Muscle science conclusion

To sum it up, multiple studies have shown that women prefer more muscular men. Muscle mass and upper body strength are important when women are determining whether a man is attractive or not. For a woman, bigger muscles are signs of the good reproductive system, immune response (health), usefulness and protecting abilities for offspring and woman.

Women see a muscular man as a potential protector (can protect family more efficiently).
Women see the strong muscular body as a signal of a healthy and strong immune system.
Muscular man is seen as higher status and desired ally for other men also.
Muscularity is associated with high testosterone levels.
Muscular men are more fit to reproduce.

Higher status and attraction

two women high status — Are women seeking higher status man?

It’s not a surprise to anyone that women find a high-status man like Brad Pitt attractive…

But do women find average males more attractive when they just make themselves to appear as higher status?

To get the answer to this question researchers have run some experiment with pictures.

In this study, women rated male model who sits in Silver Bentley Continental GT more attractive than the same guy sitting in Ford Fiesta.

“Results showed that the male target model was rated as significantly more attractive on a rating scale of 1-10 when presented to female participants in the high compared to the neutral status context.” – Source

Similar study but with a luxury apartment. Same results, male model sitting in a luxury apartment is appearing more attractive to women than the same guy sitting in a standard apartment.

“The male model was rated significantly more attractive when presented to females in the high status compared to the neutral status context and was also adjudged to be significantly more attractive than the female target superimposed on an identical background.” – Source

According to studies, results are quite clear. Higher status and luxury lifestyle are attractive. Taking pictures in an expensive sports car or a luxury apartment will make you appear more attractive. This kind of information could help you get more swipes in dating apps like Tinder.

How does your penis size affect your attractiveness?

woman daydreaming — Dreaming about something larger?

Everybody acknowledges that women favor larger and more girthier penis over small ones (see does size matter article for more information).

Scientists have wondered has the women preference over larger penises actually made men’s penises grow through evolution.

It turns out that women have always preferred and selected men with larger penises, as they “filled” vagina better.

Larger shafts made women orgasm easier and thus vaginal contractions helped sperm reach the target which leads to continuity of the “hung genes”.

Women who prefer deeper penile-vaginal stimulation are more likely to have vaginal orgasm, consistent with vaginal orgasm evolving as part of a female mate choice system favoring somewhat larger than average penises. – Study

In the book Selfish Gene 40th anniversary edition there was interesting stuff about erection strength and how women could see all kinda things about it. If a man had a weak sloppy erection it was a clear sign that this man is not primed for breeding.

As we know now, in males penis and erection strength is good signal of health.

Selection pressure from women might be the reason why human’s don’t have a penile bone like many other mammals. Because without penile bone you could not cheat the system. Only healthy and strong males could display strong and stiff erections that women preferred.

But does having a bigger penis truly make you look more attractive? Finally there some studies that are seeking to find answers to this mystery.

Do women also see a man with larger penises more attractive?

This study examined how women rated the attractiveness of the length of the non-erect penises. Scientist noted that a larger penis is indeed more attractive, and intermediate is the most attractive size. The smallest penis is the least attractive.

“Study 3 assessed attractiveness of front-posed male figures that varied only in the length of the non-erect penis. Five lengths were presented: The smallest penile size was rated as less attractive than three intermediate sizes. The largest penile size was not the most attractive, but received higher scores than the unaltered and smallest penile size.” – Source

Another study made in Australian National University shows that penis size has a strong effect on how attractive man looks. Bigger penis showed equivalent effects on male attractiveness as being taller.

“Penis size had a stronger effect on attractiveness in taller men than in shorter men. There was a similar increase in the positive effect of penis size on attractiveness with a more masculine body shape (i.e., greater shoulder-to-hip ratio). Surprisingly, larger penis size and greater height had almost equivalent positive effects on male attractiveness. Our results support the hypothesis that female mate choice could have driven the evolution of larger penises in humans.” – Source

Size does matter after all?

According to science, in women’s eyes, a man with a bigger penis is more attractive. But how you could use this to your advantage? You certainly can’t be running around and showing it. So, having a larger penis does not really help you to attract more women.

Benefits from a larger penis primarily show only after you have had sex with a woman that is already attracted to you.

In the end, it’s actually the erection strength that matters the most. From ancient times women have always preferred a man with strong and stiff erections because it signals health.

I personally don’t care about the size as much I care for erection strength and penis health. Luckily, today there is many tools and gadgets to make your erection look “primed”.

I have personally used tools like penis rings, and therapy pumps like Bathmate and written about it here: Bathmate FAQ.

How what you eat affects your attractiveness?

healthy foods — How your nutrition affects your attractiveness?

Most people think that healthy eating improves just their health and performance. But could you also make yourself more attractive by sipping green smoothies and eating more vegetables?

Will eating more carotenoid-rich vegetables make you more attractive?

There are various studies that have examined nutrition and attractiveness.

Research has shown that increasing eating carotenoid-rich fruit and vegetables improves skin blood perfusion and change your skin color to more red. Also, numerous studies have shown that skin redness is more attractive.

” Together, the results suggest that colors that are associated with health signaling and mate choice in a number of animal species also play a role in the perception of health in human faces. ” – Study

Carotenoids can actually change your skin “redness”
In a study published in Public Library of Science noticed that carotenoid from vegetables and fruits can alter your skin appearance to more attractive. Those carotenoids actually slightly change the color of your skin within 6-weeks. In this study, 3.3 portions (264 grams) of carotenoid-rich foods daily within 6 weeks was enough to change their skin to more attractive.

“Increased fruit and vegetable consumption confers measurable and perceptibly beneficial effects on Caucasian skin appearance within six weeks. This effect could potentially be used as a motivational tool in dietary intervention.” – Source

“It is likely, therefore, that the enhanced health appearance associated with increased skin blood colour and oxygenation colour has consequences for attractiveness and mate choice.” – Source

“Consumption of carotenoid-rich fruit and vegetables positively affects skin color, which influences perceptions of health and attractiveness, and promoting such an effect may motivate target audiences to increase consumption of this important food group. This approach represents a novel direction for the field and is potentially suitable for cost-effective, population-level dissemination through the visual media.” – Source

Does eating garlic make you more attractive?

Some people are avoiding garlic because it makes your breath smell. However, scientists have proved that it does just the opposite. Eating garlic seems to make you smell more attractive.

“However, the odour of donors after an increased garlic dosage was assessed as significantly more pleasant, attractive and less intense (study 2), and more attractive and less intense in study 3. Our results indicate that garlic consumption may have positive effects on perceived body odour hedonicity, perhaps due to its health effects (e.g., antioxidant properties, antimicrobial activity).”- Study

You should not avoid eating garlic because it might make your breath smell. Garlic is a tasty and healthy herb that makes you smell more attractive.

Does celery really make you more attractive?

Is celery ultimate food for men? Why the Giacomo Casanova ate a lot of celery? Does eating celery really make you smell more attractive to women?

Celery is said to contain androstenone, which is a pheromone. However, I haven’t found an actual study that proves celery really contains androstenone.

That claim comes from Wikipedia but there is no citation for the study:
“Androstenone (5α-androst-16-en-3-one) is a steroidal pheromone. It is found in boar’s saliva, celery cytoplasm, and truffle fungus.”

In this study, women smelling androstenone increased mood, sexual and physiological arousal.

We must note that even celery wouldn’t do anything to your attractiveness it still would be good food for men. Celery contains high levels of nitrates which boost your nitric oxide and make your erection stronger. Celery has also important vitamins like zinc, magnesium, potassium, and amino acid arginine.

Nutrition and attraction conclusion

This is just another hard-wired evolution stuff to pick up a healthy stronger mating partner. Today men and women can easily use this as their advantage. Just add more vegetables to your diet, make smoothies or get a juicer. And within 6 weeks your skin starts to appear more attractive.

Conclusion on how to become more attractive

There are many ways for how men can become more attractive to women. In any case, you should already have the habit of going to the gym and improving your strength and physique.

Also, simple things like getting your diet on the order and having a beard can affect your dating success.

Now we even have tools to improve our erection, which helps with the bedroom confidence and apparently makes you also more attractive to women.

Start exercising all these “hacks” to become more attractive and you might start to see women’s attraction towards you go through the roof.

To sum it all up, here is what we learned:

Attraction tricks by tabloid magazines rarely work
Having good posture is important
Most women love bearded males
Women are hardwired to look for strong and muscular males
A higher status man might look more attractive to women
Penis size and erection strength might matter more than you think
Healthy eating also makes you look more attractive